Not love, but commodity-money relations? ..

In Western Europe, no one hesitate to discuss with your favorite person to financial matters. In order to protect their own economic interests between spouses are marital contracts. In Russia, the initiation of one of the partners talk about money is considered something obscene, allowing to conclude about human greed and immorality. You can … as long as you want to say that parting with my last boyfriend was due to the empty promises, dashed hopes, and irresponsibility on the list, but why lie yourself? And I, and he understands that we are separated because of the money. It is a sad, sad, but our love, which once tsvela full flower, thrown down the cash nexus. We did not pass the test of financial … Not typed «point» in the game called relations, are not moved to a new level … In doing so, we parted with full confidence in each other’s wrong. And all because of these models. No, not leggy, decorating their curves podiums. A model of relations, which have emerged in the minds of every one of us. I always wanted to live nicely: to live in a huge, Hollywood-size apartment, travel twice a year abroad, dress in Europe, and, walking on the supermarket, fill a basket, no looking at price tags. “Everyone wants to live well!” – Irritably voskliknete you. Everyone wants to, but not everyone is doing everything possible to do so. In fact, (God forbid!) I never wanted a beautiful life through other people! In first year college, I worked zealously, but it was the end of the three forms of income. To get confidence in the future, I received two degrees, and, in parallel, continued to work hard. I was not sorry to work days, evenings and even weekends, because I always knew the price of their labor. Hard work helped me to buy an apartment in a small town and travel to Europe. But I did not want to stop there. I moved to the capital, and required to buy an apartment is already there. A front – repayment of the loan, repairs, conditions, payment for services assistant in the household, the journey to the East … This is the life that I want. And for which I do not regret the time to work. By the way, the job that I love, I love … However, a lot of work, I do not want someone to contain. I have, in principle, can not tolerate layabouts and parasites, which thrive on someone’s account. As you know, I did not call from his boyfriend of expensive gifts, and tours and other expenses paid for their own. Municipal and similar charges, we divided in half. But this was not enough … He also wanted to live beautifully. Life is beautiful in our country, working at one job in the middle manager. Podrabotok he did not want to take, although the opportunities were many. He wanted their evenings, weekends and holidays completely belonged to him. Need I add that to the «beautiful» he simply did not have enough money? .. And not just not enough. He was often heavily in debt, the case did not have enough money for basic – and the passage of food. The costs «half», in most cases had to pay me, and when he has money, he had me to «return». However, in his understanding, do not be greedy stervoy and I love him «a little», I would generously shared with him the money is paid expenses, when he did not have enough funds to do so, and in general «less would zamorachivalas for money». “But that means – less zamorachivatsya on money?” – I ask myself. This means not to count their income does not keep, do not plan for the purchase and live in utter uncertainty. Such reckless in his 27, I simply could not afford. And then I decided that I do not want to include men. Neither in part or in full. And we can arbitrarily call me feminist – feminism is not with it. Just as I said, I can not tolerate the parasites and clients. … I do not want to pay for an apartment for a joint vacation, for products for a bottle of wine and cake for guests, I do not want to put money on his mobile phone and buy him a suit to his sister for the wedding. Yes, I am greedy. But I earned every dollar itself, which is in my wallet and bank account. I better put them on the phone to his parents, but not spent for a man who has enough arrogance to live at the expense of women. When I was firmly and irrevocably divided the work and love, do not come to mind anything else, like give money to a duty. I read a lot that people do not practice this form of relationship, but I think I showed great generosity by giving money to a duty as appropriate. Give them, I could not and did not want to – I kopila money for the purchase of an apartment. Now, imagine how hard I had to then «beat». When I started this conversation, the response received at best irritating, at worst – charges of greed and mercantile. And this despite the fact that I was the only person from whom he could take the money in debt in the event of complications. Only those irreplaceable in his difficult situation. Indeed, let’s not worth it. But then I heard the accusations of greed. Just because I have a lot of work and I have – unlike him – there is money in the bank account. By the way, this is not the first time «financial» frictions, with whom I encounter. This came in my own practice – choose the men with no money and no economist in the head, and then – every day – to observe the destruction of our relations in all the laws of economics. Even if the money – not all, is much more important respect for the work of another person and conscience, which does not allow to live in someone else’s expense – especially by women.